I learned in some classroom eons ago that in order to enjoy a movie there must be willing suspension of disbelief. In other words, you must allow yourself to stop over analyzing what's happening on screen and just enjoy the story. Willingly forget that they are actors playing parts and just get engaged in the drama/comedy/horror and allow it to unfold. Essentially you have to do the same thing when you begin a relationship or fall in love. We all know that life can make us cynical, each failed relationship leaves us it's own unique piece of luggage to add the ever growing pile of baggage we drag through life with us. Until one day we realize that we are utterly incapacitated by all the relationship "wisdom" we've amassed and we can no longer move forward. We have our minds and hearts so firmly rooted in the past, that there can be no real future for us. We analyze a potential lover's motivation through the grimy spectacles of cynicism and bitterness and then wonder why we can never find some one. I'm not suggesting that we should forget who we are or what life has taught us. But rather that we try practicing a little willing suspension of disbelief and allow the scene that is love to unfold as it should without the interference of our own destructing negativity. Maybe we could leave the baggage at the door and enter the scene with our minds open and hope in our hearts? Try believing one more time. The alternative to me is unthinkable. You'll never get your heart broken again, but you'll have missed the entire point of why we are all here. What could be worse than that?
This meandering post is brought to you by Jana Kramer and her new song Love. It's what sparked this line of thought..
"I still believe in you. I still believe that you'll come knocking on my door when I least expect you to. You'll give me something I can hold. You'll pull me through. Because that's what you always do. That's what you do love.
Well said. "It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all."
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